Kafka had in his youth, not a particularly good relationship with his father because of this as a child, young people and also roughly treated and oppressed , as befitted him in study times for a former patriarch , and treated his mother also as an underprivileged. The young Kafka was afraid not necessarily in front of his father, but he was always at a distance and in love-hate relationship with him. In many works of Kafka is the father , the head of the family , shown to be very powerful, strong and partially as oppressive , as in "The Metamorphosis ," where Gregor , the protagonist and son , a giant vermin and always useless in the course of the story occurs , until his death , representing the relief for the family. The overpowering figure of the father is condemned in the all-important for Kafka's writing short story " The Judgment " the son Georg Bendemann to " death by drowning " . In " Letter to His Father ," Kafka would neither send nor publish , he writes that the Father has constantly had power over him. Probably this suppression Kafka to the introverted and self-critical , not to say " self-hating " , let people be who he was. This shows in the fact that Kafka wanted all that was in his estate burn - but this was not completed. But just the harsh self-criticism and the load- father relationship are the characteristic motifs in Kafka's life and work and also provide important substantive moments of reception of Kafka dar.